OK. You’ve been diagnosed with multiple myeloma. Chances are you got thrown to a random multiple myeloma doctor for your myeloma diagnosis. But, now you’re thinking, “how do I know you have the right myeloma doctor for me?”
Multiple Myeloma Doctors Near Me
Unfortunately, you may be limited to the best multiple myeloma specialists near me in your area. In smaller towns or rural areas you may not have a lot of choice for the best myeloma doctors. It is important to have a multiple myeloma specialist running your care, even if they are far away and coordinating care with a local doctor. The world of myeloma runs pretty fast, with lots of new research, and new treatments every year.
For new myeloma patients in larger areas and bigger cities you may have a choice between several top multiple myeloma doctors. In this case, you need to know which of the top multiple myeloma specialists is for you.
Best Multiple Myeloma Doctors Criteria
The number one criteria for a multiple myeloma doctor is that you feel comfortable with them, and their whole office.
It isn’t enough to like your multiple myeloma specialist. You need to feel comfortable and well served by the entire operation. I started with a private, well-regarded multiple myeloma specialist in Denver, Colorado. I liked my multiple myeloma specialist. I liked the multiple myeloma PA. I liked the receptionists. I liked the nurses in the blood infusion center.
I hated the nurse assigned to answer questions on the phone. Although I always got a call back within 24 hours, he frankly always seemed annoyed when I called. He felt more like a gate-keeper for the doctor than as an asset for my care.
Ironically, I felt I got much better, more receptive care at the big, seemingly faceless, hospital with terrible parking, and a long walk to the back of the cancer center building for appointments than I got at the smaller private cancer practice. This way particularly important when things related to, but not exactly part of, my multiple myeloma went wrong and I ended up in the hospital for emergency surgery on a mucor infection.
I often wonder if I had stayed with my old cancer center docs, and called that nurse if he would have pushed me off to tomorrow, or the next day, or even the next week. My care was a matter of hours thing. Another day, and I might have lost bone structure in my face, or even my eye. Another two or three days, and it might have reached my brain and actually killed me.
That is dramatic, but you MUST feel comfortable with your multiple myeloma doctors, or it doesn’t matter that they are ranked the best multiple myeloma specialists in your area.
Top Myeloma Doctors Are Up To Date on Research and Care
Maybe not everyone can, or does, read about multiple myeloma research, but I do. (You can just follow me here and I’ll keep you updated 🙂
All the time.
It helps me cope with my cancer diagnosis when I can see all of the new treatments, protocols, and experimental myeloma trials out there, even if I’m not ready for any of them yet. You feel better about living to the cure if you know there are a lot of treatment steps left to get you there.
What really bothers me though, is that I feel like I was getting last decade’s care at the original, high-ranked, cancer center. It is the difference between getting the settled, no debate care, and the care supported by the latest research.
For example, I was getting twice a week velcade shots at my original cancer center. Research shows that twice a week isn’t necessarily more effective, but definitely more toxic. At the least, we should have started on once per week and moved up if my myeloma didn’t respond. Instead, I developed terrible, painful, neuropathy in my hands. All they did each month at my visits was type in that I had pain in my hands. No solutions. (There is gabapentin, lyrica, others… I was never offered anything.)
It wasn’t until I was on the brink of tears explaining my hands that they finally moved to stop the Velcade and move me toward a stem cell transplant. Based on reading the myeloma specialist who would become my new doctor, I may have not needed a transplant just then if my care had been managed differently.
Today, I read this research report from 2009 showing that low-dose dexamethasone is just as effective but less toxic than high-dose dexamethasone. As I read the report, I recognized my dex treatment regime… it was the high-dose one!
The short version of the main criteria to find the best multiple myeloma specialists and doctors is to be close to the research. The doctors at the research hospital are more likely to move forward with more modern regimes of care, rather than the don’t-sue-me practice of standard, middle of the road, heading toward out dated care.
Multiple Myeloma Second Opinions
No matter how great multiple myeloma doctor you had do not be afraid to get second opinions. Do not be afraid to ask about research, or what you read on Google. Your doctor should welcome questions about your care. If they are just trying to get you out the door to stay on schedule, you have the wrong myeloma doctor.
Remember, your oncologist is responsible for keeping you alive. You are responsible for keeping that life as great as it can be. If the velcade hurts your hands, there are options. Ask about them.
Other important steps in your care that you may want second opinions for, or just your questions taking seriously and answered thoughtfully.
- Stem Cell Transplant – This is a big one. It is an important step in many patient’s care, but it doesn’t have to be the first (or next) move. Ask questions. See if there are options. Recovery can be long. You have to be ready to fight. You might not need it now with all of the new drug regimens. Ask about adding daratumumab to your care. It may tip the scales in your favor.
- Pain – Multiple myeloma does not hurt. All the things that multiple myeloma causes in the body are what hurt. Even though pain won’t kill you, our oncologist should take your pain seriously. Kyphoplasty instantly changed my world from one of non-stop, debilitating, spine pine to moving around and leading a normal, if fatigued, life. Neuropathy should be managed and cared about. No matter how top ranked multiple myeloma doctor you have, if they don’t care about your pain, move on.
- New Research, New Drugs – Ask about CAR-T, or daratumumab, or other multiple myeloma treatments and research you read about. They might not be right for your care. Find out why. For example, even though CAR-T is a great new multiple myeloma treatment, I currently am MRD-. There is no point to use CAR-T on myeloma that is not detectable in my body. (Although we are slowly buliding up Emplicity / elotuzumab with Pomalyst to make sure it never comes back. — I’ve already been in the hospital a lot with complications. My oncologist isn’t taking any chances.)
I haven’t done enough research on this, but early on in my stem cell transplant process, the doc at the hospital made a joke that if I went to a for-profit hospital that I would have walked out with TWO stem cell transplants.
It turns out that the facility he works for is a “not for profit” hospital. That’s not the same as non-profit, but it does mean there are no shareholders clamoring for better quarterly results.
You might want to see if you can get similar care from that kind of arrangement. It’s nice to know you are more than a dollar sign walking through the door.
Most Important Multiple Myeloma Specialist Doctor Criteria
Use your gut.
Do your research.
Listen to your friends and loved ones. Find groups of other multiple myeloma patients, ask what they are doing. There is a big Facebook group that I’m part of that helps me. Ask about the doctors they have. Chances are you can’t have the same doc (unless you live in the same place) but you can find out what a good doc feels like.
Most importantly, make sure your myeloma doctor cares.
These oncologists are often quirky, and don’t have the smoothest bedside manner. They are brilliant minds, they often come with quirks of brilliance, but it should feel like they care about more than just keeping you alive. Mine feels like borderline Rain Man, but he also always cares, always listens, and even if he scoots his stool closer and closer as he talks, he is always making sure I understand my care and why it is the best he can offer.
Your doc should feel like they want you alive. They should feel like they want you better. They should feel like you are getting care tailored to your illness. If you don’t feel these things, look for a top multiple myeloma doctor that make you feel them
Multiple Myeloma Books
Tom Brokaw has multiple myeloma. He wrote a book about his myeloma journey. The Tom Brokaw multiple myeloma book is a good read if you don’t want to feel so alone. He also makes it very clear that you are responsible for your care. He talks about he had to fight to make his priorities the priorities of his care. If you want to keep working as a journalist, your myeloma care has to be tailored to your life. Your care should be tailored to your life too.
I wouldn’t say everyone with multiple myeloma should read this book, but if you are going to read books about multiple myeloma and myeloma care, this is a good one to start with.